Pony Of Prey Blog

For the last 35 years, I have been working with individuals, couples and families, as well as business relationships. I have 8 published books on relationships and healing, some of them best-sellers. In the first half of my career, I worked as a traditional psychotherapist, and was not happy with the results. In the last 18 years I have worked with a process called Inner Bonding, which is a powerful six step psychological and spiritual healing process. I discovered that there is no real healing without a personal connection with a source of spiritual guidance.

Everyone in recovery - whether from alcohol, drugs, food, spending, gambling, sex, TV, codependency, or any other addiction - knows that they cannot heal without a connection with their Higher Power, yet for many, this connection is illusive. It is a common experience for me to work with people who have been in Twelve Steps for years yet still don’t have a direct, personal experience of their Higher Power. All of us want a direct line to our spiritual Guidance. We need this help in maintaining abstinence and taking responsibility for ourselves. We want to know what is in our highest good, what is the right decision in different situations, how to set appropriate boundaries, and how to manifest what we want.

It is the birthright of each of us to have a direct line to God, whatever God is for you. Yet few of us have learned how to do this at will on a daily basis. Surprisingly however, it is not hard to do.

The spiritual realm exists at a higher frequency than we do here on the physical plane of Planet Earth. In order to access the spiritual realm, we need to know how to raise our “frequency”.

One way to understand “frequency” is to imagine a room filled with people who are sharing love and joy with each other. This room has a feeling of lightness–a high frequency–whereas a room filled with angry, tense people has a feeling of heaviness–a low frequency.

So, how do we raise our frequency? There are numerous things you can do to help yourself raise your frequency, but none of them will work unless you have the intent to learn with Spirit about loving yourself and others.

Our intent is the most powerful tool we have for raising our frequency. There are only two possible intents in any given moment: to learn with God/Spirit about loving yourself and others, or to protect against your pain and avoid responsibility for your feelings. When our intent is to protect and avoid we seek to control - through our various addictions - our feelings, others’ feelings and behavior, and the outcome of things. When our intent is to learn, we seek to take responsibility for our own feelings and behavior by discovering what we may be thinking or doing that is unloving to ourselves and others, and what would be loving.

You can try many methods of raising your frequency, from prayer to meditation to chanting, but if your intent is to protect instead of learn, none of these will do any good at all. The reason is that when the intent is to protect against pain, we close our heart so as not to feel whatever we are feeling. God cannot come through a closed heart.

We are each given free will when we come to this planet. This means that we get to choose our intent - to be open or closed, loving or unloving, protected against pain or taking responsibility for our feelings. While the love that is God is all-powerful, it cannot come into a closed heart. Just as the air you breathe cannot come into your lungs until you take a breathe, the love, power and wisdom that is God cannot enter your being until you choose the intent to learn about loving.

When you have a true, pure intent to learn, your frequency automatically raises. None of the actions I suggest below will raise your frequency without this intent. However, once you have this intent, the following actions can help to further raise your frequency.

• Move into your imagination. Your imagination is a gift from God. When you move into your imagination, you raise your frequency and tap into the source of your creativity and inspiration. Our willingness to move into and trust our imagination is essential to being able to connect with our personal spiritual Guidance When you first begin to utilize your imagination to increase your frequency and connect with God, you might feel as if you are just using your imagination to make things up. However, as you take the risk of trusting what you think you are “making up,” you will discover that it really is coming through you from God rather than from you.

• Keep your body clear. Your body is an energy system. If your body’s energy is clogged with drugs, alcohol, nicotine, caffeine, sugar, heavy foods, lots of food or foods contaminated with pesticides, preservatives, artificial sweeteners or any of the thousands of chemicals that are added to foods, your frequency is lowered.

• Pray. Sincere prayers of gratitude and asking God for help in healing all blocks to loving can raise your frequency.

• Chant. Repetitive prayers, chants and mantras can open you to higher frequencies, as can singing in general.

• Dance. Rapid repetitive movement, such as Native American drumming dances, may open you to higher frequencies.

• Spend time in nature. The frequency of a city is far lower than the frequency of nature. Being among trees and flowers, near a river, creek or lake, at the ocean, in the desert, or on a mountain can all raise your frequency.

• Listen to classical or spiritual music.

• Do creative, artistic activities. Moving into your creative imagination raises the frequency.

• Use incense or do “smudging.” Incense has been used for centuries to raise the frequency and invite spiritual connection. “Smudging” is using the smoke from various dried plants such as sage, pine, cedar and lavender to clear the energies in a room and raise the frequency. Smudging has been used for thousands of years by indigenous peoples throughout the world.

• Lighting candles. Candlelight, too, has been used for thousands of years to clear the air and raise the frequency.

If you get into the habit of asking yourself throughout the day, “What is my intent? Am I trying to control something, or is my deepest desire in the moment to learn about loving myself and others?”, you will begin to understand intent. This will eventually lead you into hearing, feeling, and seeing your personal spiritual Guidance.

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is the best-selling author and co-author of eight books, including “Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By You?” She is the co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding healing process. Learn Inner Bonding now! Visit her web site for a FREE Inner Bonding course: www.innerbonding.com or margaret@innerbonding.com. Phone sessions available.

Cornball messages, Nike doesn’t give. Inspirational messageswell, the world-famous shoemaker metes them out in healthy dosages.

By far the most inspirational, which made millions “Just Do It,” is turning 20 this year.

“Just Do It’” will give way to “Courage” in time for the 2008 Olympics in Beijing. The Courage global campaign is billed as Nike’s largest ever.

Set to the tune of “All These Things That I’ve Done” by The Killers, Courage television spots will debut across Asia and South America come July 19. Michael Jordan, Maria Sharapova, Lance Armstrong, Roger Federer, Kobe Bryant, Liu Xiang, Michael Johnson, Oscar Pistorius, Cristiano Ronaldo, and Joan Benoit are just some of the 31 athletes who will be featured in the Olympic-themed commercials.

In advertising, Nike isn’t known for frugality: by April, the company had spent $75 million in America alone. Long-time advertising partner, Wieden & Kennedy, will handle this monumental brand marketing campaign.

But Nike has every reason to splurge. Its sales have taken a nosedive in an ailing US, where profits grew only by 4%.

Hyperdunk, a new basketball shoe, will also be heavily promoted during the campaign. Advertising shoes could have been a better fit in the NBA Finals though.

Courage will also encompass a 10km marathon, dubbed the “The Human Race.” On August 31, a million people will run in 25 cities, making the event the largest of its kind.

Still, Nike had foresight to opt out as official sponsor to the Beijing Olympics. Just for this, human rights activists can save their breaths.

Cemex California honored for enriching local environment.

Cemex California Mixes Sustainable Manufacturing with Profitability.

Learn more about Cemex California at the Brand Managing website.

This week I finally got round to watching “The Wedding Date” an enjoyable -if slight - romantic comedy.

The plot, for anyone not familiar with it, has reluctant singleton Debra Messing attending her step-sister’s wedding with a male “escort”, Dermot Mulroney, [who combines perfect eye-candy looks with gentlemanly charms and a comprehensive fee per service policy.

The Messing character needs to have Mulroney in tow because her ex, who inexplicably dumped her, is the best man.

The action is simple and predictable: girl meets boy, girl and boy connect at some profound yet unclear level, they fall into bed together, argue, break up and then end up back together, all smiles and tears while we the audience buy into the idea of them toddling off into the sunset of Happily Ever After.

This is indeed the stuff of “rom com” and romance, according to The Oxford English Reference dictionary, is about “an atmosphere or tendency complecharacterized by a sense of remoteness from or idealization of everyday life”. Quite. Except that we don’t entirely suspend disbelief even when we are watching romantic comedies.

At some point, every one of us has longed for that fuzzy ultimate feel-good sense of being regarded as the perfect inhabitant of a perfect world by our perfect partner.

Whatever the problem is, love is the answer. Love is all you need, after all. So Mulroney is a male sex worker. Not a problem. He gets all the best lines, from the philosophical: “You get the relationships you want”, to ” I think I’d miss you even if we’d never met” and this line that would sit well in the mouth of any abuser: “I’d rather fight with you than make love with anyone else.”

Aaah! And yuk! Aaah because both leads are so good looking (and toned and well dressed) that they’re just bound to be happy together ever. Yuk because flimsy love stories still impact on our psyche at the subliminal level, teaching us that you can build strong relationships on hopelessly inadequate foundations.

Sooner or later, we all try it, are amazed when it doesn’t work and punish ourselves. Often before repeating the same process with the self-same outcome.

Michael Gerber’s “The E-Myth Revisited” - Why Most Small Businesses Don’t Work And What To Do About It” urges business owners to develop strong visions for their companies.

How does that translate to women, and men, who want to be build successful relationships? Surprisingly well.

Since we are all, first and last, flawed human beings, our design flaws in any one area of life are likely to impact on other areas also. And so it is that Gerber’s comments about replacing assumptions (and aspirations and dreams) with clear-sighted strategies relate to our emotional world also.

Gerber writes:

“Most of us have had the experience of being disappointed by someone in whom we have put our trust… trust alone can only take us so far.

Trust alone can set us up to repeat those same disappointing experiences.

Because true trust comes from knowing, not from blind faith.

And to know, one must understand.

And to understand, one must have an intimate awareness of what conditions are truly present. What people know and what they don’t. What people do and what they don’t. What people want and what they don’t. How people do what they do and how people don’t. Who people are and who they aren’t.”

It becomes possible to develop ‘an intimate awareness of what conditions are truly present’ when you are prepared to leave on hold the romantic justification: “Love is all you need” for as long as it takes to work through the various stages of relationship building - which Gerber defines as ‘Infancy’, ‘Adolescence’, ‘Beyond the Comfort Zone’ and ‘Maturity’.

“And how am I supposed to manage that, Clever Clogs?” you might be wondering. Once again, Gerber has a useful answer - if you are prepared to replace the term “relationship” with “business”.

Gerber talks at length about working on the business rather than in the business - a fascinating concept for anyone who has ever spent time trying to pick up the broken pieces of a relationship in the wake of a partner’s abusive outburst.

Gerber says:

“Simply put, your job is to prepare yourself and your business for growth.

To educate yourself sufficiently so that, as your business grows, the business’s foundation and structures can carry the additional weight.

And as awesome a responsibility as that may seem to you, you have no other choice - if your business is to thrive, that is.”

Having spoken with hundreds of abused women over the years, I can say with confidence that abusive men do not change their spots. They may use concealer when you first meet and fall for them, and their spots may proliferate over time, but still those spots are there from the start.

The Love-is-all-you-need approach will blind you to the spots. Working from the outset at establishing a foundation of reciprocal care, respect and equality will quickly enable you to see the face behind the concealer.

I’ve yet to encounter an abuser who can manage selflessness for longer than it takes to earn a few vital brownie points. And even then they don’t just do it, they make a 10 course banquet of it.

Nor do abusers ‘do’ solid foundations. Love is all they need. What they term love - over time increasingly a justification for all manner of bad behaviour- is most unlikely to be all you need.

That said, would I turn down the chance to parade Dermot Mulroney at a family function? No way. He would add a whole new dimension to a forthcoming bash at a Kosher Chinese restaurant in suburban London (truly!).

But I’d like to think that if he came out with a killer line like: “I’d rather fight with you etc.etc.”, I’d do the honourable thing and drag the sole of my hobnail boot along his shin. Hard. Because I’m not too sure where a line like that would fit with my compelling long-term vision of a possible relationship.

(C)2005 Annie Kaszina Joyful Coaching

An NLP Practitioner and Women’s Empowerment Coach, Annie specialises in helping women heal the trauma of bad relationships, so they can enjoy the present and look forward to the future.

Email:annie@joyfulcoaching.com To subscribe to Annie’s twice monthly ezine, or order her eBook ‘The Woman You Want To Be, go: to www.joyfulcoaching.com

June issues of Managing Automation and InMFG Highlight Contributing Editor Thomas R. Cutler. A manufacturing journalist for many publications.

Thomas R. Cutler, President and CEO of the largest manufacturing PR and marketing firm, TR Cutler, Inc. (www.trcutlerinc.com) received editorial coverage in both the June issue of InMFG, a leading Reed Business Publication, as well as Managing Automation. Both articles can be found on the right-hand column of the website home page.

Thomas R. Cutler is a contributing journalist for the following publications:

• Advanced Manufacturing


• American Metal Market


• Business Integration Journal


• Canadian Manufacturers and Exporters


• Fabricating and Metalworking


• Food Engineering


• Food Quality


• InMFG magazine


• Industrial Computing/InTech


• IT for Industry


• Machine Design


• Manufacturing Automation


• Metalworking Production and Purchasing


• Moldmaking Technologies


• Plant Magazine


• Plastics News


• Quality Digest


• The Manufacturer


• Time Compression Technologies

Cutler continues to serve as the editor of the quarterly publication Manufacturing Profiles and authors more than three hundred feature articles annually for more than two hundred publications.

Thomas R. Cutler also serves as the lead spokesperson for the ETO Institute (www.etoinstitute.org).

Cutler is the founder of the Manufacturing Media Consortium consisting of more than two thousand journalists worldwide writing about trends in the manufacturing sector. Cutler is the author of the best-selling Manufacturing Directory, The Manufacturer’s Public Relations and Media Guide. Cutler is a national public speaker regarding manufacturing marketing, and recently announced the August 2005 launch of PR Advantage — an affinity PR program for Manufacturing Associations and their members.

TR Cutler, Inc.
www.trcutlerinc.com
954-486-7562

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Professional Journalist reaching the Manufacturing Community Worldwide

Happy Surveying!

Hi, my name is Danielle. Have you been looking for a way to supplement your current income? Have many survey sites built your hopes up only to tell you that you have to PAY for their list!?
Do you want to discover a FREE way to get rewards and earn $1-$10 per survey on the Internet? Well, You will earn extra spending money in no time. I get about 1- 4 surveys everyday in my email.

Have you been fruitless in searching for how to make money online? There are the schemes you sign up for that actually want money from you! Well I’ve been on the web for 7 years. That is a long time to find out how the Internet works, and how I can make money from it.
I believe the secret is online surveys.

They are fun to do, free, you get to give your opinion to popular companies, and get money in the process. Anyone can do it and companies want people on their survey panel. How does it work you say? You go to an online survey company’s website, and they ask you usually “Do you want to join our consumer panel?” You press the link, and up comes a form to fill out with your name, address (so they know where to send the check), email address, age, and other demographic information. Press “Submit”, and they tell you that they will email you when a survey is available.
In one or two days they may send you an email with a link to a survey. They will usually tell you about the prize you will get such as
“If you qualify for this survey, you will receive a $5 check”.
Since “qualify” sounds like an iffy word, it is best to sign up to many survey sites, so you know at least a few of the surveys you will qualify for.
They don’t usually send a lot of spam or junk mail. Surveys sites do not send spam so unless you are signed up to 100 sites, you will only get about 1-5 emails a day for surveys to do. After completing a survey you can wait about 2-4 weeks for your check to be mailed to you, or can acquire points in your private account until you reach a certain amount ($10 or $25). It’s EASY, and FUN, and your actually earn CASH. So start signing up, and remember “A survey a day keeps the boredom away!”

You may be thinking, these survey sites don’t want me taking up their time by signing up for their panels. They probably want professional people that know a lot. Wrong! Most want consumers; people like you who shop at the supermarket, go on vacations, and drive cars. They probably need a large database of people to choose from from different backgrounds and ages. Case in point, I signed up for a site and signed my parents up. They send my parents more surveys than me even though they are in their 40’s and 50’s. So why don’t you go to one of the sites and see how they present their advertisement for people to join their panel. It will usually say “Join our Panel” no catches or spam; and they mean it. I have accumulated the best of the best sites, so you will not be sorry. So sign up now and have a good time giving your opinions (as I am doing here). After seeing the sites and signing up you’re ready to take the next step of finally making money on the web!

Danielle Watson is a student who’s been online since 1997.
Her website is Survey’s Galore at
http://www.webspawner.com/users/danie3304/index.html

About the Author

Danielle Watson is a student who has made money on the Internet since 1997.
Her email is danie3304@aol.com and she has a website dedicated to listing online surveys at
http://www.webspawner.com/users/danie3304/index.html

We know that volunteering a portion of our time is something we should do. There are reminders all around us that our help is needed. Other people will significantly benefit from any time we contribute. But that is not the only reason to volunteer.

Have you thought about the benefits you will get from volunteering? If you consider the many benefits you will receive, you will be asking yourself why you aren’t more involved with helping a cause. Consider these 18 reasons to volunteer some of your time:

1. To make new friends
2. To build personal and profesional contacts
3. To build your self-esteem and self-confidence
4. To develop new job skills
5. To make a difference in the world
6. To increase personal satisfaction
7. To add experience to your resume
8. To develop people skills
9. To develop communication skills
10. To do something as a family
11. To explore career possibilities
12. To feel needed and appreciated
13. To share your skills with others
14. To be challenged
15. To do something different
16. To earn academic credit
17. To improve your health
18. To have fun!

You will get more out of your volunteer experience than you put into it. Don’t hesitate to identify and donate some of your time to a worthy volunteer opportunity. You will be glad you did.

Roger Carr is the founder of Everyday Giving. His life purpose is to help people help others. To learn more ways to give, sign up for their free ezine at www.everydaygiving.com.

Do you ever get the feeling that you just cant think straight any longer? That your ability to concentrate has just disappeared? That your brain has somehow reached overload and your thought processes have ground to a halt? You’re tired and irritable! Perhaps your neck feels stiff and your shoulders and muscles are tight, and your head aches! Does all this seem familiar?

We all know stress - it’s part of life! Pressure is a form of stress and we use it every day, at work and in our daily lives. We apply pressure to ourselves, or it is applied to us, when we set time frames and objectives for projects, goals and ambitions. Without pressure and stress we would simply get nothing done, we wouldn’t achieve anything! Stress is good when it invigorates your life and challenges you to reach the limits of your potential.

Stress can be bad however, when it reaches a level beyond which you feel in control any longer. Stress then becomes counter productive and a destructive force in your life. When you find yourself tense, tired and uncomfortable. When worry about problems or situations causes tension, insomnia, depression and other physical and psychological problems.

Bad Stress also affects your immune system and makes you more susceptible to illness, pain and headaches, but if you know how, you don’t have to allow that to happen anymore!

Imagine… having relief on tap, something you could experience whenever you need it, something that would remove all the stress from your body and return the sparkle to your mind. How would you feel if you could wake up tomorrow, feeling in control?

Well, Happily, you are blessed with a really powerful tool that can remove stress instantly - your body’s relaxation response. Using hypnosis to trigger this wonderful natural effect will release hormones and neurotransmitters that flood your body and mind with pure, cleansing relaxation. You owe it to yourself to feel the relief you can have instantly.

Stress causes many physical and psychological problems that can be relieved through hypnotherapy. Hypnosis changes the way you think and moves you forward into a new perspective. Most people feel better immediately and stop their self-defeating thought processes.

When you discover how easy it is to resolve these issues with Hypnotherapy, you will be amazed. Some people say it feels like magic because it is so easy to make powerful changes. Hypnotherapy simply allows you to access the resources you already have in your subconscious mind. It moves your mind and body into a different state, where your emotions and hormonal balance will help you feel better. This will enable your subconscious mind to access new, more relaxed, more uplifting emotions. You will enjoy deep, peaceful relaxation, allowing the feelings of tension and stress to just drift away from you. You will be left feeling recharged and energised.

A hypnosis session for change won’t just help you to “chill out”; it could be the single most important thing that forever determines your ability to feel Relaxed and calm, even under the most stressful of situations!

Learn to recognise the signs that stress is starting to build up and be prepared to act quickly on the problems causing this, because problems seem to grow in intensity if they are not dealt with. The relief will be instant and you’ll be glad that you did. It’s important to realise that you always have choices and learning how to properly manage stress will make you a happier person and really will improve your life. Believe in yourself and in the power of your mind.

Using Hypnosis to trigger your natural relaxation response is an effective method of dealing with stress from which you cannot get relief through any other methods. This will help you cope with ordinary and extraordinary levels of stress and enable you to live a happier healthier life.

Imagine how good it will feel to wake up the next day feeling in control, feeling strong, feeling free, and feeling optimistic and excited about the future…

Let your mind go free and your body will follow!

Ron Goodswen, partner at Imagine Me Media - the Hypnotherapy DVD company. Roderick Piggott - Hypnotherapist with over 20 years of experience. Imagine Me… The Hypnotherapy DVD Company

Out of millions, comes one big winner and out of billions, comes a winner who overtakes every other winner in the world. Look at the history of the world, and you will always find few individuals during a certain period who were winners of that time. Lincoln, Gandhi, Churchill, Roosevelt, were all winners of their time. Today we have winners in business field, but no one in the political arena. Mandela can be called as the winner of today’s world in politics. The question is not, who is the winner of a given time, but what makes a winner.

Even in a small classroom, one student outclasses every other. In a dance performance, one troupe member performs much better than others and the same is true in movies. We always find one actor who lived the character, while others only acted. Who is a winner and what qualities are needed to make a winner?

Overcoming Obstacles

Winners come across same obstacles as everybody else. But they take them as challenges. An obstacle can be treated as a hurdle or something that challenges the mind to overcome it. Winners take them as challenges and rather than getting frustrated, thrive on obstacles. Every new obstacle makes them sharper and better, while a large majority surrenders in front of the same obstacles.

Focus

The winners have focus. Rather than giving away their energy to small ideas, they focus on the larger objective and work towards that. It is like walking on a road. The winner keeps walking, whereas other mortals try to explore smaller streets that connect to the road. Walk towards the goal.

Hard work

Winners are not afraid of hard work. To achieve their objective, they work ceaselessly. There is no word such as tiredness in their dictionary. The objective of working towards the goal gives them so much energy that the tiredness finds no place in their scheme of things.

These are some of the qualities that define a winner. Many other qualities add up to make a true winner in the millions. Why shouldn’t all of us become winners?

Related links: Visit http://www.inspirationecards.com and view the ecards to motivate yourself and send them to your friends.

CD Mohatta is currently a dedicated content writer for screensavers, wallpapers and ecards in all the websites of ScreeneNetwork.com. Some of them are EcardUniverse.com and ValentinesDay-Cards.com

Commuting is one of those things that, if you are doing it, is something that you have to do rather than want to do. And if you have a negative attitude about your commute, it can quickly turn into something that starts to impact more than just the time you spend commuting.

Your attitude about the commute can carry into work, home, and play. When you arrive at work already in an agitated state, you’ll need a cooling off period or your productivity will be lowered. Time is wasted preparing for the commute itself, either by having to hype yourself up or by dragging yourself down. It can also take its toll of your health, whether it is from increased stress or weight gain. Needless to say, commuting takes away from time that you would rather spend on other activities.

Wouldn’t it be nice if you actually looked forward to your commute? It may seem overwhelming to try to picture the commute in a different way, but there are resources out there to help commuters change their perspective and even turn the commute into something positive and productive.

Following a simple program and making small changes is a great way to start turning your commute into a better experience. Programs are good because they provide structure and activities to see you through the needed steps and help you to understand
why the commute affects you adversely and how to change it.

One of the first things to do is think about what it is that drains you about the commute? Is it the time, the crowds, being away from home, fears and risks associated with traveling, or simply the boredom? In order to revert back to a time before the stress of the commute got hold of you, you first need to articulate what about the commute is draining. Then you need to do something about it.

Think of the commute as a tool that allows you to live your life in a better way. For example, instead of saying:

“I hate driving all the way to work. I wish I could retire. What’s the use of having a nice house when I don’t have any time to spend in it?”

You could say: “I commute to work so that I may live where I choose. In this way, I get the best of both worlds, a good paycheck and a good home. I even get to use my commute time in a way that increases my health and wellbeing.”

Figure out what drains you, then you can act on that and move forward to help make your commute a positive force in your life.

Dr. Mastria is founder of Commuter-Assist and has created a five step program titled, FIVE STEPS TO A BETTER COMMUTE available free on the Commuter-Assist website (www.Commuter-Assist.com). Dr. Mastria’s website is designed to help commuters get the most out of their commute and life in general. To contact email info@Commuter-Assist.com.

The difficulty in finding love that is good for you stems from the same difficulty you have loving yourself. For those who believe in God or a higher power, to not love yourself is to not love the very source of your existence. To not trust yourself is to not trust the source of all life. To not forgive and have compassion for yourself is to not have forgiveness and compassion for others created from the same source. What is this source? Call it what you will, all matter comes from energy and all energy comes from Source. Leave the scientists and religious thought leaders left to their devices to try and explain that. You focus on your relationship, to self and to source.

As we become more fully embracing of ourselves, having the intimate relationship that acknowledges the dark and light of who you are, you will bring more love into your life. Loving is vulnerable and the challenge is to be vulnerable to oneself first. It’s a scary place to go. After all, we’ve all heard enough criticism and judgement from others throughout our lives about who we are, what we do wrong, and what we don’t accomplish. When you have a dear friend who is being so self-critical, do you encourage and affirm that criticism or do you remind them that they’re human just like everyone else? Do you tell them to be gentle with themselves, thereby empowering them to try again? As I recall, I didn’t just hop on a bike the very first time and start riding like a pro. It took some practice and a few falls and scrapes. For that matter, after years of riding a bicycle, I still managed to have some rather nasty falls and run into parked cars when I wasn’t looking.

If you’ll be that supportive in your expression of love and compassion to another person, why wouldn’t you give yourself the same courtesy? Owning your power is to not give it up, to not give it away. Keep working it, keep learning, keep falling, keep picking yourself up, keep laughing, and keep going. Life’s just like that, so find the humor, the joy, the laughter and say piss-off to failure. Failure only happens when you give up completely. Tiredness is something you create through negative thinking and self-criticism. Find energy in your optimism and your thirst for adventure and the journey of learning that life brings to you.

It’s a question of perspective. It’s all in the vibe baby.

Lee Down is a Professional Coach, Trainer/Facilitator, Speaker, & Writer of One Man Can Human Capital Development that focuses on relationships, the key foundation to success in business and life. With more than 15 years professional experience and a thirst for truth and understanding, he focuses on the human spirit and human capacity.

Working with clients, he facilitates the breaking down of beliefs, barriers or obstacles that bring clients forward on their journey of discovery with spirit, energy, abundance, passion and purpose, integrating the mind and body experience. Working with business, he brings visionary leadership and relationship skills to the forefront that witnesses an empowered culture evolve and develop directly impacting the improvement to the bottom-line.